I don’t know

I’ve been on the road for over 7 hours (as at the time I’m writing this) and i still have a few more to go before getting to my destination. But I’m not complaining, i love road trips, if not for anything else, i just love to stare at the big beautiful sky and marvel at the beauty of nature and by extension, the mastery of my God.

So i was staring out the window, wondering what next to think about (i was thinking about thinking , I’m such a thinker! ๐Ÿ˜†) When i realised that today is friday and I have a blogpost to write, but i have nothing planned out, hence the title of this post. I think I’d just go on and share some of the thoughts that have crossed my mind during this trip.

A friend of mine gets married tomorrow and another is planning towards hers in February next year, so lets just say I’ve been around alot of marriage gist recently. So its not strange that my line of thought swayed in that direction for a bit (or maybe a little more than a bit๐Ÿ˜‡). I never thought I’d feel the pressure ladies feel about getting married. I’ve always wondered why ladies allow peers, society and family pressure them. I said to myself “I’m ‘macho’ I won’ t let anyone pressure me like that o, I’d marry when I’d marry,ย  period!. But it’s so funny that very subtly and passively, I’ve began to feel that pressure too. I shocked myself with that realisation, ME? It’s so strange. I’ve had to constantly commit these feelings to God in prayer and actively remind myself that my number one pursuit is a life in Christ Jesus.

Matthew 6:33 ” Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and its righteousness and all other things would be addedd to you”,


I have to keep shifting my heart back to this focus, because every other desire is secondary.

I noticed something interesting in Genesis some days back, you remember how God made Adam fall into deep sleep (somewhat like general anaesthesia) and then operated on him, taking out one of Adam’s ribs? Well after that, this is what the bible says

“He (God) formed a woman out of the rib and brought her to him.”
Genesis 2:22 GNB

Something clicked for me from this scripture, God FORMED the woman before he presented her to the man. In this scripture i think it was literal, but today i beleive God still forms us first before presenting us. So for a woman that calls Jesus her Lord, you are going to have to let him form you first before presenting you to his son (Your husband to be๐Ÿ˜Š), I mean why would our heavenly father want to give unformed women to his precious sons? think about it as a parent would you allow your child marry an immature/unformed person? So the earlier we let God work in us and form us, the earlier we get presented. Now this doesn’t mean we must become perfect first, not at all, it just means we allow God mould us into a form that would fit the mould of the imperfect son he’d link us up with.

I was listening to a message few hours ago (another thing i like to do while travelling), and this stuck on my heart…

“the things God would require you to do in marriage are things he has called you to do as a single person”!


I find this to be so true, think about it, in marriage God expects the man to Love and the woman to submit amongst other things, and this are things that we have to do every single day with family, friends and even strangers, being kind to friends, submitting to authority, putting others before ourselves, etc. So if we can’t be kind and show love as singles, it doesnt become automatic in marriage, it doesn’t. We carry the same ‘us’ into marriage. All the more reason why we need to allow God form us now.

I’m enjoying these lessons I’m learning now. So I’m going to trust God to help me be kind, gentle, peaceful, submissive, teachable and humble in my interactions everyday, because practice makes perfect and I’d rather learn now than later or what do you think?


4 thoughts on “I don’t know

  1. I think everyone is allowed to feel that pressure (once in a while. I mean most ladies like me day dream a lot๐Ÿ˜Š). The most important thing like you pointed out is to redirect our focus (and emotions) back to God.

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